Terms of service

Beta draft. This page has not been reviewed by a lawyer and is not yet in effect. It describes the app as built for the internal beta, which is open to invited testers only.

1. These terms

These terms are an agreement between you and the developer ("we") about your use of Be My Perspective. By creating an account you accept them, the guidelines shown in the app, and our privacy policy.

2. Who can use Be My Perspective

• You must be 18 or older. You confirm it when you sign up.
• Be My Perspective is for people in, or seeking, recovery through a 12-step program, and for members of family fellowships such as Al-Anon. You choose your program when you sign up.
• One account per person, signed in with your own Apple ID, used on one phone at a time.
• To answer calls from members you do not know, you must first agree to the helper guidelines, and you must have a year or more since the date you count your time from. You confirm that yourself; we do not check it, and we rely on you being truthful. Anyone can ask for a call; the year applies only to answering.
• You must be a person. Accounts may not be run by software, and nothing in Be My Perspective is an automated or artificial member.

3. What Be My Perspective is, and what it is not

What it is. A way to reach someone else in your program for a call, when you want one. A request rings members who have said they are available; the first to answer is connected with you. Calls start with audio only, and each person decides for themselves whether to turn on their own camera. You see each other's first name.

What it is not.

• It is not professional care. The people who answer are fellow members sharing their own experience. They are not counsellors, doctors or therapists, and nothing said on a call is medical, psychological or legal advice.
• It is not a crisis or emergency service. We cannot send help: we hold no number, address or location for anyone. If you or someone else is in danger, call 911 (in the US) or your local emergency number. In the US you can call or text 988, the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline, at any hour. The app's Urgent help screen lists these.
• There is no guarantee that anyone will answer. A call happens only if a member is available and chooses to answer. When nobody does, the app shows meetings, helplines and other ways to reach people.
• It is not part of any fellowship. Be My Perspective is not affiliated with, endorsed by or sponsored by Alcoholics Anonymous, Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc., or any other fellowship whose name appears in the app. Fellowship names appear only so that you can choose your program. "A.A." and "Alcoholics Anonymous" are registered trademarks of Alcoholics Anonymous World Services, Inc.
• Calls are free, and will stay free. There is no charge for a call, and there is no advertising.

4. Your account

Your account is your Sign in with Apple identity; we never see your Apple ID, email or phone number. Keep your phone locked: anyone holding your unlocked phone can use the app as you. Signing in on a second phone moves the account to it and signs out the first.

5. How you must treat other members

The guidelines shown in the app are part of these terms. In short, and the guidelines govern where they say more:

• What matters is what you do to the other person, not how you speak or what you share. Strong language, anger, a hard story or a bad day are part of recovery and are not against these terms.
• Do not: make sexual or romantic advances; press anyone to meet or to give their contact details; ask for money; threaten the other person; or record a call, or take pictures or screenshots of it, by any means, including a second device.
• Keep what you hear to yourself. Do not repeat anything another member shares on a call, or try to find out who they are.
• Be who you say you are. Choose the program you are in, and do not answer calls if you are not in recovery in that program.
• Do not misuse the service: no attempts to get around a block or a removal, to overload the service, or to reach information about other members.

6. Reports and blocks

After any call you can report the other person, or block them, or both. A report is read by a person, safety reports first; the member you report is never told that you reported them or which call. You are told that the report was received, and not what happened next. A block is silent: the two of you are never connected again, in either direction, and the other person is not told. You can see and remove your blocks in settings. You can file up to five reports a day and request up to ten calls an hour; past that the app tells you so.

7. What can happen after a report

A person decides, never an automatic system, and decides on what a member did to the other person on the call. In short:

• A report of the kinds listed in section 5 against a member who answers calls can stop that member from answering, as a precaution, while they can still ask for calls themselves.
• A second report of those kinds from a different member, about a different call, within 12 months, can remove the member from the service. In rare and serious cases, such as one involving a minor, one report can be enough.
• Removal is permanent. It stops your Apple ID from signing in or signing up again.
• If either happens, you are told that your account can no longer answer calls, or can no longer be used, and which guideline it concerns. You are not told who reported or which call, so that nobody is put at risk for reporting. There is no warning step, because a warning would tell you that a report exists.
• Meetings and helplines are still there for you; Be My Perspective is not part of any fellowship, and nothing here affects your membership of one.

We may also stop providing the service to an account where the law requires it.

8. Your privacy

The privacy policy says what we hold, why, for how long and who can see it. In short: a first name, your program, a few matching choices and a record of each call for 30 days; never a recording, an email, a phone number or a location.

9. Deleting your account

You can delete your account in the app at any time, in Settings. It takes effect at once. What, if anything, is kept afterwards, and for how long, is in the privacy policy (section A.10). You can stop using Be My Perspective at any time without deleting your account; your availability ends on its own when the time you chose runs out.

10. The service

We work to keep Be My Perspective running, but it may be unavailable at times, calls may drop, and features may change. We may suspend or end the service, or a part of it; if we end it, we will say so in the app first. We may update the app, and an old version may stop working until you update it.

11. Testing (TestFlight builds)

If you use a test build, it is a test: expect faults, and expect that things will change. Test builds include a feedback form (privacy policy section A.3.6); use Report, not feedback, for anything about another member's conduct. Apple runs TestFlight under its own terms.

12. The app itself

The developer licenses the app to you for your personal use. You may not copy, modify or resell it, or try to reach the service other than through the app.

13. Disclaimers

This section is to be written with counsel before the external beta.

14. Limitation of liability

This section is to be written with counsel before the external beta.

15. Governing law and disputes

This section is to be written with counsel before the external beta.

16. Changes to these terms

When these terms change we will update the date and, for a change that affects what you may do or what may happen to your account, tell you in the app before it takes effect. If you do not accept a change, you can delete your account.

17. Contact

Contact: a contact address will be published here before the external beta. The developer operates the service.

Not yet in effect: beta draft of 2026-11-13.